BSB EXCLUSIVE: So should I give her money?

Hello Blacksatino,

So I was just going through your blog and came across some issues you have discussed as regards money. I can see that there are some women out there that like me the boyfriends or husbands don't give them money and they are really angry about it. This really got me thinking about my own relationship. You see I and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years plus now. In the course of this relationship I cannot recount a single time that I gave her money. I do buy her thing's though, I help her with hair and gifts and other things like that when I have the money and feel like doing it.

Now she has never asked me for money and I have always assumed that she never needed it at all. So the idea of
handing her money never crossed my mind. Reading your blog now, I am really scared that maybe she does need money and never tells me but just assumes that I am the type of person that is stingy. I really am not stingy although I would admit that I don't believe in giving my girlfriend money when we haven't gotten married yet. I just have this belief that she isn't mine to take care of yet. Might be a wrong concept or not I don't know, it's just the way I am.

We quarrel at times over nothing and now I am beginning to link those random quarrels to this money issue. Maybe somehow she doesn't know how to ask for money because she is a really shy person, then she gets angry and makes trouble when there is really nothing to be fighting about. So my question is that should I just go and deep my hands into my pocket and start giving her money when she hasn't asked for anything? How do I know that she needs money.


Thanks