This has got to be the most intriguing note I have gotten in a long time...So I got this email from one guy whose name is TOM and according to him, he cheated on his wife and feels soo much guilt..
Read what he had to say below
Hi there,
I'm emailing you as I am lost, panicky, grief stricken, and a mess. I'm a 31 year old male with 2 young kids and a third due any day, to my beautiful wife of 3 years, and partner of 11. 4.5 years ago, I was very drunk, out with the boys, and ended up back at a friends house with a girl who approached us on the night. Nothing happened that night much to her disappointment. Unfortunately about 4 weeks later, I was drunk again with friends, and she sent texts to me and I took the bait. We arranged to meet at my friends house. I had sex with her for around 1-2 mins before running home ashamed, guilt ridden, and sick to my stomach. My fiancé was early stages pregnant with our first. To this day I don't know why I didn't deal with it at the time. I think I was scared, and also reluctant to jeapordise my fiancée pregnancy. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago and this girl from that night appeared on my Twitter contacts list. I deleted her number back at the time and have had no contact with her. So I don't know how it appeared. Anyway, it has sent me into a spiral of grief, anxiety, loathing, depression, panicky, and diahorrhea. Perhaps I never dealt with it at the time. I feel I have lost the right to our relationship and that I should tell my wife. I feel like a fraud. I'm constantly wondering 'would I have this beautiful wife and family if I told her the truth when it happened'? I'm writing this through tears. I've seen a counsellor and a psychologist. If I keep feeling like this, I am no good to anyone as I'm operating at about 20%. I can't see through the fog at the moment that I can keep this a secret much longer. I hate myself for what I've done and feel like I'm living a nightmare. An act of cheating has never happened before this night, and has not happened since. It will never happen again. I am an honest person and don't think I can take this to my grave. I also understand I might ruin my wife's life if I tell her of my mistake. And given this is so far out of character and something I never want to experience again, is it worth all that pain? We love each other immensely, and I feel we have too many positives in our lives to have this break us, but I don't feel that is my decision any more, as much as that breaks my heart. I have felt sick for 2 weeks and am hoping you may have some advice for me. I don't know where to turn too. It's something I havnt told anyone so the isolation of this just makes it 10 times worse. I'd love to talk to my mum or sister for advice, given they love us both immensely, and understand us better than anyone. But I also feel it is unfair to burden them with this problem. My wife is ready to give birth. It should be an amazing, exciting time in our lives, yet I'm buried in guilt. It is consuming me. I am so fearful of what is at stake. I hope you can offer some guidance in any form.
> Thank you for your time,
> Regards
Read what he had to say below
Hi there,
I'm emailing you as I am lost, panicky, grief stricken, and a mess. I'm a 31 year old male with 2 young kids and a third due any day, to my beautiful wife of 3 years, and partner of 11. 4.5 years ago, I was very drunk, out with the boys, and ended up back at a friends house with a girl who approached us on the night. Nothing happened that night much to her disappointment. Unfortunately about 4 weeks later, I was drunk again with friends, and she sent texts to me and I took the bait. We arranged to meet at my friends house. I had sex with her for around 1-2 mins before running home ashamed, guilt ridden, and sick to my stomach. My fiancé was early stages pregnant with our first. To this day I don't know why I didn't deal with it at the time. I think I was scared, and also reluctant to jeapordise my fiancée pregnancy. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago and this girl from that night appeared on my Twitter contacts list. I deleted her number back at the time and have had no contact with her. So I don't know how it appeared. Anyway, it has sent me into a spiral of grief, anxiety, loathing, depression, panicky, and diahorrhea. Perhaps I never dealt with it at the time. I feel I have lost the right to our relationship and that I should tell my wife. I feel like a fraud. I'm constantly wondering 'would I have this beautiful wife and family if I told her the truth when it happened'? I'm writing this through tears. I've seen a counsellor and a psychologist. If I keep feeling like this, I am no good to anyone as I'm operating at about 20%. I can't see through the fog at the moment that I can keep this a secret much longer. I hate myself for what I've done and feel like I'm living a nightmare. An act of cheating has never happened before this night, and has not happened since. It will never happen again. I am an honest person and don't think I can take this to my grave. I also understand I might ruin my wife's life if I tell her of my mistake. And given this is so far out of character and something I never want to experience again, is it worth all that pain? We love each other immensely, and I feel we have too many positives in our lives to have this break us, but I don't feel that is my decision any more, as much as that breaks my heart. I have felt sick for 2 weeks and am hoping you may have some advice for me. I don't know where to turn too. It's something I havnt told anyone so the isolation of this just makes it 10 times worse. I'd love to talk to my mum or sister for advice, given they love us both immensely, and understand us better than anyone. But I also feel it is unfair to burden them with this problem. My wife is ready to give birth. It should be an amazing, exciting time in our lives, yet I'm buried in guilt. It is consuming me. I am so fearful of what is at stake. I hope you can offer some guidance in any form.
> Thank you for your time,
> Regards
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